We’re married, but we sleep in separate rooms

separate sleepingFor several months, I slept down the hall. The bed was firmer, and more comfortable, and I could have a restful night’s sleep without R rolling around next to me.

This separate sleeping lasted about three months — and I was pregnant and needed space to … marinate. Many couples sleep that way regularly and they swear it’s better for their marriage.

The alone time allows them to catch up on sleep and focus on hobbies — reading, playing the guitar, watching TV — the other isn’t into, says one Oregon couple in a story on this morning’s GMA.

One marriage and family therapist estimates more than half — yup, more than 50 percent — of couples have separate sleeping quarters.

Right after C was born I was back in our room, and probably won’t leave again till life — again surgery, pregnancy, sickness — necessitates.

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6 thoughts on “We’re married, but we sleep in separate rooms

  1. NotSoNice

    Having a spouse that works third shift is kind of like sleeping alone. We share the bed at most 2 nights a week. In October we both had surgeries a week apart. His surgery forced him to sleep in the recliner for a week. I was in the recliner for several, I actually got used to having my own space even though it wasn’t the most ideal. I think I might enjoy sleeping in separate rooms, we don’t share blankets or pillows just the physical surface we are sleeping on but not worth the cost of purchasing another bed for 2 nights a week.

    1. Shannon

      I feel the third shift. I just started on the 3rd shift and it is WEIRD sleeping alone. While I do love not being kicked or anything I miss the comfort of sleeping with him. As we are only four years into our relationship I’m sure that may change…. 🙂

  2. BakingSuit

    I need something to fall asleep to (book, tv, etc) he needs quiet and darkness. I’m not a good sleeper to begin with and toss and turn, talk in my sleep, etc all night. It’s not intentional, but most often we don’t sleep together until late. It’s either that or one or both of us doesn’t sleep much.

  3. Megan

    I know people who do, but I wouldn’t want to unless it was necessary (surgery, pregnancy, etc.). So I guess I can’t really pick one of the options!

  4. Mick

    I am generally the night owl and my wife is in bed a couple hours before I fall asleep. I tend to have the intention of getting in to bed but I usually end up nodding off on the couch or recliner only to be awoken at 6:30 by a dog looking to go for his walk.
    I think there comes a point where the body just wants that company in bed so we have to go back but the cycle will tend to repeat itself.

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  5. Lindsey

    I have a love/hate relationship with bed sharing. I miss my husband when he isn’t there but I’m a very light sleeper so the noises and tossing and turning drive me absolutely crazy sometimes.


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