A reader asks (via Facebook):
In 2010 my parents graciously hosted a beautiful wedding for me at what was then Dale Miller (now Taste) for about 250 family members and friends. Unfortunately, I was marrying an awful human being who was very verbally, emotionally and physically abusive. He ended up choking me on our wedding night so hard that his hands were bruised into my neck. I left that night.
Since then I have met the most incredible man who treats me like a princess and we have reached the point in our relationship where we plan to be engaged anytime in the next few months. I can’t help but feeling a sense of unrest over how to handle another wedding. There are plenty of resources for how to handle a second wedding due to death or divorce but my situation is different.
I don’t want to take away all of the fun of a wedding from him but don’t know how to handle it being my second. Do I have a shower? And if so how do you put it out there without seeming like you’re asking for more gifts? Same with the wedding? I’m afraid of offending some of my older more traditional family. Any tips or suggestions would be so hugely appreciated.